Daily Reverie

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Recent Speech for my Public Speaking Class. March 11, 2010

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Introduction:  From early television sitcoms such as “I Love Lucy”  to modern day movies like “The Ugly Truth,” television continues to sustain gender role stereotypes because  it reflects dominant social values.

I.  How many of you are familiar with the movie Mulan? And the song “I’ll Make a Man Out of You.”  It portrays in one song, stereotypical gender roles of both men and women. The men are told they need to step it up and be tough and show their strength. While the men in the song sing about how they just want a woman who is beautiful and can cook and will “adore their battle scars.”

A. Gender Roles in Children’s Media
1) The roles of men and women are even seen in children’s movies.  Britain, in a recent study found that in television shows 70-85% (generally) of the characters are male and portray  the ideals of men active, aggressive, rational and discontented, and the women in the shows carried about typical representations of occupational roles or that of nurses and talking on the phone, reading and helping with the housework.

2)   A study done in 1975, which professionals still refer to as accurate, consisted of “forty boys and forty girls, sampled at four age levels: 4-6, 8, 10, 12 years of age. Their viewing time was measured, and then the children were administered the ‘it’ scale. This is where the child is given a drawing of a stick figure (it), before being asked to select what objects ‘it’ would prefer, from a host of pictures of objects which have associations with stereotyped sex roles.”  The study suggested that the more television that children view, is directly related to the child’s view of gender roles.
3)   According to Kevin Durkin’s book “Television, Sex Roles and Children” there is evidence showing that girls ages 8-12 tend to find a male newscaster more believable than a woman newscaster.

(Transition/signpost): Gender roles are not biologically determined and vary depending on the culture. Gender roles may even change for an individual during the course of their life.

II. Media in Advertising and Non-Children’s Media

1.   In many ads women are told that their bodies are their best assets. They are a tool. “Ads within this category reflect the concepts of the Only the Body trope, namely, that a woman has only her body to offer.” (genderads.com). There is a current women’s perfume ad in  which it says “Apply to your neck, so he can smell the scent as you shake your head no.” In advertisements, men are portrayed as “symbolic capital, intelligence and power” (www.genderads.com) until they are placed into the role that a woman typically portrays, and that time, the men are shown to be weak and stupid and helpless.

2.   There was a television show in the 1980’s that drastically flip-flopped the gender roles traditionally seen on TV. The show “Who’s the Boss?” is about former baseball player Tony, who takes a job as live-in house keeper to career woman Angela Bower. Through the flipping of the gender roles, this show depicts that once the roles are reversed in a life has a hard to continuing “to go on as normal.” Angela’s son is shy, lacks self-esteem and in one episode starts listing off every country in the world to a school authority figure, to which the principal replies that he needs to “go play sports and stop reading books.” And in many episodes, the dysfunctionality of the household is blamed on the fact that the man stays home and does all the chores while the woman is out in the workforce.

Transition: I want you to ask yourselves. How much of an impact does the media play in your daily life and how you view you role in society? It’s interesting to think, that willingness to be vulnerable is viewed as emotionality in women and weakness in men. So society has turned not only gender roles, but the basic core values of human relationships has been overturned.  Jesus we saw a focus on relationships and a constant sacrifice of his pride and needs for others. why can’t society seem to do the same?

III.    Clearly the media has it’s own agenda. It has created a downward spiral that just keeps repeating itself over and over and over again. And with each revolution that the cycle makes the roles of men and women get more twisted and discomforting to all who are exposed to the media stereotypes.

Close: I’m not saying we can’t get entertainment from Disney films or get a laugh from movies such as “The Ugly Truth.” I happen to love all the Disney princess movies and “I Love Lucy” is my favorite show. However, we must be able to separate what the media and society is trying to tell us that truth is, from what is the truth. Regardless of whether or not someone is a Christian, the individual needs to be able realize that men and women are more than just sex symbols and stereotypes.


Growing. March 7, 2010

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“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” e.e. cummings


Plans…? March 5, 2010

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So, I love how whenever I think I have everything in my life all figured out, and then God humorously (or not so humorously) shows me that I have absolutely NO idea what I am doing. It’s great fun. Not.
Sometimes, I feel like Elijah when God tells him to wait until the presence of the LORD passes by, and Elijah sees fire and earthquakes…and God is not in either of those. Or I feel like Bruce, in “Bruce Almighty” when he yells “God just give me a sign!!” And a sign truck drives by. Sometimes, I just want say to God “A sign…okay, I asked for one, care to be a little more specific?” And…God’s not specific enough…or rather not specific enough in MY timing, which usually in my mind is more important at the time, than when God wants to carry out plans. Sometimes life takes patience.

“Patience is the ability to count down before blasting off.” ~Anonymous~
I don’t possess patience. I want to have everything figured out and know what’s going to happen and when its going to happen so that I can plan my life accordingly.

John Lennon once said “Life is what happens when you are too busy making plans.”
I’m trying to figure out how a person can get through life without believing in God. I realize that in a previous post, I said that I sometimes wonder about this whole Christian thing…and that’s true. But at the same time, it all comes down to Faith. Sometimes, faith is the hardest thing in the world to hold onto, but when I choose to hold onto it, at the end of the day, my Faith is still there. And my God is still there. Even when I feel like He is being silent, like I feel as though he is being now. But when feeling completely lost, because of your choices or life’s circumstances aren’t going exactly how you had planned, and not having anyone to lean on. Or possibly only having yourself to lean on, but that doesn’t often work out when you are too torn down and ragged to carry on.

In Jeremiah, God tells Jeremiah
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,
before you were born I set you apart;
I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
“Ah, Sovereign LORD,” I said, “I do not know how to speak; I am only a child.”
But the LORD said to me, “Do not say, ‘I am only a child.’ You must go to everyone I send you to and say whatever I command you. Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you,” declares the LORD.”~Jeremiah 1:5-7

God knew us BEFORE we were born, he knew us while we were growing inside the womb. He knew who we would be, and what we would look like, and who we would become before anyone else even met us. He made us each as special individuals, and set us a part from everyone else. The cliche` sayings “You are special.” It’s true! And not only that, God will always be there for us, when we become too frustrated with life and not knowing where we are going, and what we want, He WILL help us. We just need to tone down our pride and ask for help.

I need help.


A journey of a thousand miles… March 2, 2010

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I found this entry in my journal from last year. Almost exactly a year ago.

“A journey of a thousand miles, begins with a single step.”

I feel as if this school year, I’ve been on a journey of many thousands of miles. That I’ve learned more in the last six months about love, life, God, family, friends and myself than I’ve ever learned in my life.

I’ve learned that “love isn’t about finding the perfect person, it’s about learning to see an imperfect person perfectly,” and that striving to be perfect for another individual isn’t healthy or what love is about. One should not require you to fit a set of standards, and tear you down when you cannot reach the sky with only one try. That the Corinthians definition of love “Love is always patient; love is always kind; love is never envious or arrogant with pride. Nor is she conceited, and she is never rude; she never thinks just of herself or ever get annoyed.She never is resentful; is never glad with sin, but always glad to side with truth,whene’er the truth should win. She bears up under everything, believes the best in all, there is no limit to her hope,and she will never fall. “ (International Standard Version) is true. I’ve learned that broken hearts, take time to heal and that the healing is different for everyone. I’ve learned that the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me,” is not true. At all. Words hurt. They leave a mark. That hurtful words, are not a part of love.

Life, that I’ve learned so far, is to be lived to the fullest. One should never be afraid to take chances, the worst that can happen, is that it doesn’t work out.

God is always there. Always. And he never changes. Other people may change, but He is the same, yesterday, today, and forever as the Bible says in Hebrews 13:8. God does not base his love and care for us on conditions. He does not work with the “I love you until…” or “I love you but you need to do this in order for me to love you more.” God loves, God cares, and God wants us to come to Him, even if we are angry.He wants us to share our feelings with Him. He will never turn His back on us.

I’ve learned that God gave us family for a reason. And that a family isn’t about being the perfect all American family with a never divorced mom and dad, with 2.5 kids and a dog. A family comes in all shapes and sizes, all colors and interests.

I’ve learned that true friends are very rare.That some friends are only friends until inconvenient for them. That if something happens that you don’t want to talk about, they won’t hold that against you. They will stand by you, when the rest of the world walks out, even if they don’t know what the bad thing was that happened. That when everyone else looks down on you, or says means things about you, to your face, or behind you back, true friends will be a shield to defend you, and a hand to pull you up. True friends will be the ones that drive an hour from their house to your school, because you called them on the phone crying, and even though they couldn’t make sense of your words through your tears, it doesn’t matter. They come to give you a hug. True friends are the ones that buy you pizza, when you haven’t eaten for days, and take you out to midnight milkshakes. They’re the ones that come to a family gathering, just for support, even if that means people they know will look down on them. They’re the ones that come to see you, because they know that you can’t come to them because of people you may run into. They are the people that offer the matches to burn somethings you need to let go of.

I’ve learned, that Dr. Seuss was a genius when he said “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those matter don’t mind.” I’ve learned to be content in who I am, and I will not apologize for that. I am your average girl, laughs when something is funny, cries when something hurts, lives for the next grand adventure.

I want to thank those that have been true friends through the past several months, Those that have accepted me as family. And apologize to those who I may have hurt.

It’s been almost a year since I created that entry.  And I realize even more so how much that is true.