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Love is a Choice August 7, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — Lauren @ 5:26 AM

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.”

I’m becoming increasing discontent with the stigma that the world places on marriage and the basic commitment in in relationships in general. The word “love” is tossed around so carelessly, that it seems to have lost the meaning behind it. People (even I am guilty of this) off handedly say things such as “I love this color.” or things such as that without actually regarding what the word “love” means.

“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.” – Leo Buscaglia

It bothers me to the very core of my being that people who commit to being married to eachother for the rest of their earthly lives, so often now will decide to get a divorce because “I just don’t love them anymore.”Psychology tries to measure it. To confine it to cognitive developments in the brain. They say that it is a chemical reaction and that the “feeling” can go away.  There is no real definition to it outside what we make it

True Love, is so much more than a feeling that can come and go like other emotions such as anger, happiness or sadness. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured.

“Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another’s goodness…God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). So, too, we seek goodness in others. Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love.” What is Love? Gila Manolson.

Most people “fall into love” only thinking on themselves and how they are feeling, without actually taking the time to regard the other person as a whole. And once that “lovey dovey” butterfly in your tummy feeling goes away, so does what you regarded as love. Which means, that it wasn’t real love to begin with. True love, is a choice, it’s a commitment. It is not only how you feel because the person makes you happy. It definitely is not being married and then waking up one day and saying “I don’t feel like I really love you anymore.” becuase real love is so much more than a feeling.  “Love is looking past imperfections in your partner and seeing the beautiful person inside. True love seeks the happiness and well being of your partner. Love expresses itself in the mutual respect you demonstrate to your partner.”

I think the best way I have heard love explained is in a song by Warren Barfielf called Love is worth Fighting For

Love is not a place, to come and go as we please, is a house we enter in, and than commit to never leave, so lock the door behind you, throw away the key, we’ll work it out together, let it bring us to our knees

Love is a shelter in a raging storm; Love is a peace in a middle of a war, and if we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door.
No, love is not a fight, but is something worth fighting for.

To some love is a word that they can fall into, but when they’re falling out, keeping their word is hard to do

Love is a shelter in a raging storm; Love is peace in a middle of a war, but if we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door.
No, love is not a fight, but is something worth fighting for.

Love will come to save us, if we’ll only call, he will ask nothing from us, but demand we’ll give our all.

Love is a shelter in a raging storm; Love is a peace in a middle of a war, and if we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door.
No, love is not a fight, but is something worth fighting for.
I will fight for you!

Would you fight for me?

It’s worth fighting for.

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