“I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love.” Mother Teresa.
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about relationships the past few days. Perhaps, it’s has to with the harsh truth of having to have had a friend die and realizing how fragile life is. But I think it is deeper than that. The more I ponder the value of relationships, the more I realize that is my passion for life. To build sincere relationships with those around me.
There is a deep and moving importance in the building genuine relationships. I’m not talking about just the “fair weather” kind of friendship, where you pop in and out of someone’s life when something monumental happens with that person, and leaving when things become uncomfortable. I am talking about the kind of relationship where you willingly look outside of yourself every moment of everyday, even in the times where you would rather curl up in bed and pretend that the world outside is not there. The kind of relationship where the needs of the other is more important than your feelings.
I think that in our minds, as Americans, the word “relationship” is scary and we tend to stay away from using it. The only time in which we really use it, is when we are referring to romantic relationships. And being “in love.” But people are fickle, and even using the word “love” seems to lose it’s value, as we grow up and learn what it means to have our hearts hurt. Then we decide that the only relationships that are worth having are the ones that we can gain something from. We allow ourselves to become guarded and shy and unwilling to share the love that we are capable of.
Anthony Robbins once said “The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” So, the question is, what relationships do you have and what are you doing to intentionally build them up and make them better? Are you willing to allow yourself to open your heart and love others in a way that invites them in to see the beauty of life through the love that you show them? Someone once said “”Love comes to those who still hope even though they’ve been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they’ve been betrayed, to those for whom love still heals, even though they’ve been hurt before.”
Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh!” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” ~A.A. Milne